Behavior is communication.
And sometimes? It's a cry for help from a nervous system that’s running on empty.
In inclusive classrooms, we know that behavior isn't just about “choices”—it's about context. That’s why learning how to recognize and reduce stressors is one of the most effective (and humanizing) strategies we can use.
Because when we support regulation, we unlock access to learning.
First, What's a Stressor?
A stressor is anything—yes, anything—that taxes a person’s ability to stay regulated.
And here’s the kicker: stressors are often invisible to the naked eye.
We might see a kindergartener refusing to sit for circle time…
Or a high schooler who always walks out right before presentations…
But what we’re not seeing are things like:
- itchy tags,
- unpredictable routines,
- confusing directions,
- or overwhelming social input.
In fact, there are four domains of stressors we must consider:
- Biological – sensory issues, physical discomfort, poor sleep, hunger
- Emotional – feelings of fear, excitement, shame, sadness
- Cognitive – information overload, confusion, fast-paced directions
- Social – rejection, crowded classrooms, being misunderstood
Each of these domains can impact a student’s ability to stay calm, connected, and ready to learn
The Stress-Behavior Link (and Why It Matters)
When stress builds up, students move out of their prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain responsible for logic and self-regulation) and into survival mode.
What we often label as defiance, avoidance, or inattention is really the nervous system saying: “This is too much.”
5 Practical Strategies to Reduce Stressors Today
Here are five of our favorite ways to reduce stressors across PreK–12 settings (and yes, adults benefit too!):
- Go Quiet
Minimize auditory overwhelm. Use visuals or approach silently when possible.
- Give Visual Support
Predictability reduces anxiety. Post directions. Show options. Use visual cues.
- Reduce Demands
Give fewer tasks. Allow choice in how to complete work (try the PIG grouping: Partner, Individual, Group).
- Offer Breaks
Water. Movement. Silence. All of these help reset a stressed-out brain.
- Slow Down and Give Time
Pause before repeating instructions. Use turn-and-talks or quiet wait time to support processing.
These aren’t rewards. They’re regulation strategies.
